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Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment. First off, I can understand why your initial reaction to me not being a virgin could be disconcerting. One thing I can say about that is I was also in the same boat as you. Let me explain, I grew up in the church and was given the same no sex before marriage message which I held dearly until my very early 30’s. Like you, I did not want to get married but still carried the virgin stigma which felt like a burden. There was nothing wrong with me but for most of my life I was taught and believed that the initial sexual experience should be “magical with your spouse.” As I got older, I started to understand the implication of what no sex before marriage belief would have on my life knowing that I did not want to get married any time soon. The virgin pride started to turn to some embarrassment. Believe it or not, there are people in their 30’s and 40’s and older who have never had sex. The decision to engage in a sexual relationship with my partner at the time did not bring any regret for “losing it” before marriage. Maybe it was age and the “first time sex is special” wonderment wasn’t so important to me because there were other things that took priority in a relationship.

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